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Do you have low self esteem?
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Only part of being in the right place at the right time is what results in success.
A huge part of how likely you are to succeed, or not, is found in how you feel about yourself.
You get what you expect on a subconscious level, in life. What you self esteem expects you to get is what you usually end up getting.
Feel that you will succeed and you will. Not necessarily immediately but you will have the fortitude to keep going until you do.
Believe that you will fail, and you will … again, not necessarily to begin with, but ultimately you will do exactly what your inner programming has geared you up to do. The cause of this is low self esteem
Your belief in yourself shows in your self esteem. If you have low self esteem, this quiz will help you identify where exactly you are underestimating yourself, and where you have strengths.
Try it. Answer honestly … the only person to lose from you saying what you wish was true, or want others to think, is you!
Give yourself a score of:
1 if you usually do this
2 if you sometimes do this
3 if you never do this
Score all the questions, then total up your final score to find out if you have high or low self esteem.
1. When something bad happens, can you look for the positive in it?
2. Can you honestly look at your weaknesses, recognize them as such, and make an objective decision whether to work on them.
3. What do you want out of life? Can you answer that question? Your high or low self esteem will affect your view.
4. Do you understand the concept of setting boundaries for others with regard to how they should treat you, what you will tolerate etc?
5. Are you open to others ideas and opinions even when they are very different from your own?
6. Can you maintain your cool when things are going wrong, people are mistreating you, and the world seems to be out to get you? Low self esteem comes with a price. You will be happier once your self esteem grows.
7. When someone is angry with you, how do you respond? Do you ask them what they want you to do, what outcome they want?
8. How to you react to stress? Do you handle it in positive ways without resorting to “artificial” coping through alcohol or drugs?
9. When you do something well, do you let yourself celebrate and congratulate yourself?
10. Can you itemize your main strengths?
11. When you make mistakes are you able to forgive yourself, and put it down to a learning experience?
12. If you find yourself comparing yourself to others, are you happy about how to measure up?
13. Can you ask for what you want?
14. Do you stand up for yourself and what you believe it when other put you down?
15. When you are angry, can you deal with it maturely and professionally?
16. Do you control your self talk, and not put yourself down?
17. Do you like yourself? Are you comfortable and happy with who you are?
18. Can you handle conflict effectively?
A score of 25 – 42 is a moderately good self esteem. Look at the items you scored 3 on, and consider working on them.
A score of 43 and over: your self esteem could do with some work.
Look at the ones you scored 3s on and choose one two to work on, and then another one or two and keep going till you can score under 24 on this quiz.
But whatever you do, don’t beat up on yourself – that is a self defeating move.
Instead, congratulate yourself that you have already taken the first step to higher self esteem by identifying what you can work upon. Shyness can affect your self esteem.
Want to work on building your self confidence?
Keep on going – you CAN do it, and you ARE worth it.
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