Assertiveness Quiz
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Questions to ask yourself
about being Assertive

Strangely enough, many people who are overly aggressive consider themselves not assertive enough, while many who are very timid and mild think they are standing up for themselves.

The ideal, of course, is to assert yourself whenever necessary without being aggressive, and without giving in when it's important to you to stand your ground.

Once you understand what exactly assertiveness looks like, you will feel more confident, and better about yourself as you practice the skill.

So before you do the Assertiveness Quiz, here are a few questions for you to consider.

- What has caused you to want to become more assertive?

- Are you doing this at someone else's suggestion?

- Or is it because you just feel you want to do it for you?

- What do you expect to change if you become more assertive?

- Why do you want this result?

- Why have you waited until now to do this?

- What has been the difficulty for you in being assertive?

With your answers to these questions in mind, you are ready for the Assertiveness Quiz.

Assertiveness Quiz

Score your answers as follows:

0 = I never do this

1 = I rarely do this

2 = I sometimes do this

3 = I usually do this

2./ I am not afraid or hesitant to ask directly for help when I need it from friends and family.

3./ If someone pushes ahead in line, I will speak out for myself and keep my place

4./ I believe that others should share the workload, and am able to request that they do their share

5./ Public speaking is not a problem for me

6./ When someone is pressuring me to buy, I have can refuse

7./ I will not let someone intimidate me – I will stand by my opinion

8./ I am able and willing to negotiate raises and other changes with my supervisor/ boss

9./ When I want more information, I do not hesitate to ask for it. I am not afraid of appearing ignorant or stupid.

10./ When I consider someone is being unfair, I can say so

11./ I take a stance and insist on service that are of the quality I expect and deserve

12./ I tell people when they offend, upset or create problems for me, in a tactful but direct way

13./ If I lend something to someone, I have no hesitation in asking for it’s return

14./ When a purchase turns out to be unsatisfactory, I have no trouble in returning it

15./ When I meet someone I would like to befriend, I can easily take the first steps to create that relationship

16./ I do not feel guilty when I put my own needs and wants first

17./ Love and affection are easy for me to express, and show

18./ When someone tells me I’ve made a mistake, I can accept it without getting angry or defensive

19./ I feel under no obligation to do things other people’s way, unless there is a good reason for it

20./ If a superior is verbally abusive or rude, I am willing to stand my ground

21./ I know I am not perfect, and I am comfortable with that

22./ Decisions are not hard for me to make

55– 66 Assertive

40-55 Moderately Assertive

25-40 Inconsistently Assertive

Under 25 Needs Practice