Relationship Compatibility

Relationship compatibility is something that affects us all. We all have people in our lives, at home, at work, socially. And wherever there are people, communication and compatibility problems arise sooner or later.

There may of course be many underlying issues that affect things, but no matter what the problem, understanding where the other person is coming from can make a huge difference.

Asking the other person to share where he or she is coming from has limited benefit.

Firstly they have to be willing to share.

And secondly, they have to know recognize it themselves in order to verbalize it.

This is not the most effective way to understand relationship compatibility since very often neither of these prerequisites exists.

You might find it helpful to read some information on communicating with others - whether you see the problem as yours or the other person's or both.

It can help. So what other solution is there to help with relationship compatibility?

One is to look into the psyche of both yourself and the other person to find out from where the behaviors / attitudes are coming.

By examining yourself as well, you find out why you are reacting as you are to the behavior demonstrated by the other person.

Yes, you could both go to a high priced psychologist or psychiatrist and hopefully they could help you work it all out.

But you can also enhance relationship compatibility by finding this information for yourself, and very simply at that.

Handwriting Analysis or Graphology is recognized as a branch of psychology, by the US Congress.

It is very commonly used for hiring in many European countries. It is used by law enforcement agencies world wide.

It is also used in relationship compatibility.

And its advantage over traditional types of psychology is that it immediately shows the source of the behavior.

How? Because personality traits show in writing. Your handwriting is a form of body language and as such shows the real you.

The benefits to using it in relationship compatibility exists in the fact that one behavior can come from many sources.

Let’s take, for example, someone who just never seems to get done what they have said they would do.

Many would label that person as a procrastinator. And perhaps they are. But what if their writing shows an absence of the trait of procrastination?

That doesn’t mean that handwriting analysis doesn’t work. It means we have to look deeper into the writing for other things that might cause someone not to follow through on what they have said they would do.

It may be due to the fact that they are generally disorganized, or that they have so many different things on the go at once, that they are running around in circles getting nothing completely finished.

Or it could be a combination of both.It could also be due to fear of failure, to sensitivity to criticism, a need for approval, a lack of confidence, shyness to name but a few.

It could be the result of a resentful attitude, or depression…… there are so many things that could stop someone from doing something other than procrastination and yet, if someone you know has said they will do something, if there is no immediately visible reason why they haven’t, we tend to blame it on procrastination.

Why does it matter what the cause it – after all, they just didn’t do what they said they would!

It matters because the solution can be found as a direct result of understanding the cause.

The only solution for genuine procrastination is a good kick in the pants.

However, if someone is putting things off for any of the other reasons, this will not only not work; it may even be counterproductive.

Let’s say someone is very sensitive to criticism and they haven’t done what they said they would because they fear that the only way they can do it will attract criticism.

If you treat it as procrastination and push them to get going – you are criticizing the fact they haven’t done it. They have now affirmed the type of behavior to expect in this situation is criticism and are even less likely than before to move forward and do what ever it was.

If however, you realize it’s sensitivity that is holding them back, and first address that issue, by encouraging them, and letting them know that however they do this will be fine, they may then feel more secure that they are not going to be hurt, and go ahead and complete the task.

This has 2 benefits. The obvious one is that the task has now been completed.

But the other benefit is that you realize now that this person was not just reneging on a promise, but that there were reasons, and you have learnt how to handle it in way that can help in future communications.

This is just one scenario. There is one for each of the traits that might be masquerading as procrastination.

And there is one for every other problem, personality clash and communication breakdown.

You can see from this example, how, by understanding the source of the behavior can be extremely valuable in human relationships.

So in this way, by understanding how handwriting displays personality, you can quickly and easily enhance personal relationships whether these are romantic, family or business.

Read an excellent article on relationships and handwriting.

Or this one on Rating your Date

It’s an amazing tool and so simple to use and can increase relationship compatibility significantly.

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